"This book is guaranteed to strike a chord with anyone seekinggreater understanding of the dynamics of conflict and the paths totransformation. Cloke and Goldsmith draw on their vast experienceas mediators, taking us inside the world of conflict stories. Theyshow us how to listen at three levels and ask questions that opendoors for understanding, healing, and growth. An invaluable book!"(Karl Slaikeu, president of Chorda Conflict Management; author,When Push Comes to Shove) "An eloquent primer for anyone trying to live a successful andsatisfying life. Using conflict as a prism, Joan Goldsmith andKenneth Cloke provide an indispensable look at the elementsnecessary to transformation." (Eileen Moran Brown, president,Cambridge College) "A classic! Full of timeless insights into highly sophisticatedmediating. The stories are told in detail, so that moves andresponses by the parties and the mediators are apparent. Themediators' exquisite sense of timing and respect for the partiescombine to produce often astonishing results. Essential reading forexperts as well as novices." (Barbara Ashley Phillips, author,Finding Common Ground and The Field Guide to Mediation) "Those who seek a cookbook approach to mediation will find thisvolume far too rich. A varied menu of stories from the authors'twenty year practice shows how a trained ear, an open mind, arespectful and intuitive stance, and humane values can anchor andsteer a broad and flexible repertoire of effective third-partypractices. Tasty reading!" (Laura Chasin, director, PublicConversations Project)